Month: January 2018
Did you know that depression in a relationship is quite common? It usually means that something is wrong in the relationship that one or both people acknowledge but do not know how to change the problem. When depression in a relationship happens, it’s essential that it gets fixed or the relationship may completely dissolve. Many bad relationships are the cause behind relationship depression.
How Does Relationship Depression Start?
What causes depression in a relationship to begin? Actually, there are three main causes as to why relationship depression begins. They include:
(1) Letdown Feelings – Many times relationship depression begins when one person has been let down by their significant other. Their dreams have not been fulfilled and they no longer feel hopeful staying in the relationship.
(2) Loss of Control – It can also occur when one person is too controlling over the relationship. The person becoming depressed in the relationship has to do things a certain way including selection of clothes, cooking, cleaning the house, etc. Too much power is given to one person and the other feels insignificant. Thus relationship depression begins because the dominated person has no control over his or her own life.
(3) Pretending – Sometimes, when a relationship begins, people don’t act like themselves. They tend to hide who they are for fear of rejection or opening up. If you are like this, it’s likely that you feel that revealing who you really are will make your partner leave you. When you aren’t yourself, you lead yourself into a relationship depression. After all, the relationship is based on a lie and no one can lie about who they really are without becoming depressed.
You Can Stave Off Relationship Depression
A person who is depressed in a relationship will need considerable help getting over it. There are ways this can be done and it will take patience. If you know someone who is in a relationship depression, here are some things you can do.
First, be around for them. It’s important to be a friend and listen to them whenever they are ready to talk. They need to feel like someone is on their side so do so for them.
Second, help them out physically around the house. They don’t feel like doing much when they are depressed and this goes for chores too. Lend them a hand until they feel up to doing things once more.
Third, make sure they get up out of bed. While this may seem easy to you, when a person is suffering depression in a relationship, they are going to need a little extra push.
Fourth, remember to love them unconditionally, with no strings attached. It’s normal to feel frustrated by the relationship depression but they have to know that you are not upset with them by the situation, only about the situation itself.
Fifth, find some outside help. Often times, just talking about the problem that’s causing the relationship depression can help. Other times, people will need medication to overcome depression. Don’t be afraid to seek out help if you feel it goes beyond what you can do.
Some people, after a couple of months or years of being together, tend to get bored with the relationship. This is a very crucial step in a because it is one of the most common beak up reason. Boredom.
What if your partner loses interest in you? How do you save your relationship from being eaten away by dullness? Here are some tips:
1.Give your partner some space. A change of atmosphere, environment, or company would help a lot. Go on a vacation alone or visit your parents. Let your partner hang out with his/her friends. Giving your partner a space would make him/her re-realize your worth. While doing that, take the opportunity to give yourself a break. Go out. Shop. So that when you get back to each other, you both feel refreshed and happy.
2.Have a makeover. Maybe your partner is getting bored with how you look. He/She must have loved you for what you are, but changing looks adds more excitement to the relationship. It is one of those surprises that would certainly catch him/her off guard and notice you once again.
3.Do not nag. Do not ask where your partner is going after work or what he/she is doing. Do not call up just to check on your partner. Nothing is more irritating than having somebody track your every move. This shows that you do not trust your partner. Trust is one of the main ingredients to a lasting relationship. Without it, any relationship wont work.
4.Try new things. New dishes, new house design, new activities. Novelty adds spice to a boring relationship. You can get new ideas from magazines, forums, chat lines and articles. Try something new every other day or once every week. This would keep your partner guessing what you would be up to next time.
5.Be sensitive. Talk with him. You partner might have some problems but you just do not realize it. Communication is important in a relationship because it opens doors for analysis, improvement and understanding. Let him/her know that you are always ready to listen and help them in any way.
6.Always smile. Nothing brightens up the day than a simple smile. Smile is contagious. Even if your partner feels gloomy, he/she will lighten up when you smile.
7.Show your partner how much you love him/her. You do not have to go to the extent of buying special gifts or giving expensive vacation treats. You can show your love in little ways. Give your partner a back rub after work. Or offer to wash his/her car. Cook his/her favorite food. Scrub his/her back. These little things show that you still care.
If all these fail, then maybe you are not really meant for each other. Keeping a relationship strong takes effort and strategy. You need to have your relationship planned out if you want it work. You should know what to do if a certain instance happens or a problem occurs. But the effort must come from both sides. It just aint worth it if you’re the only one saving the boat. In that case, let go. It means that he/she’s already lost interest. Try again, and make sure it works this time.
If you have found yourself in a Scorpio relationship you better be prepared to be brave. Dont get me wrong, Scorpios are very loyal and can make wonderful companions, but in the heat of things when times might be tough you may end up being the one who gets fiercely stung.
Scorpios love to be the one controlling their environment and are the take charge kind
of person in any relationship. So you have to be tough and not give in on everything they want. You must understand a Scorpio’s nature and then you will know why they seem to want to take the lead with everything that is going on.
This does not mean you cant feel the need to ever take charge of anything. You will need to bravely express yourself when you want to do so. In this way you will actually win your Scorpio’s admiration, because aside from being natural leaders themselves, they also love it when someone else shows moxie and drive. Scorpios may want to take over everything but they lack determination and toughness many times. Show that and you can get on their good side.
Scorpios are attracted to a challenge, so it is wise for you to play hard to get sometimes. Just dont go overboard as they may eventually think you are not interested in them, and that would be a turnoff for them.
You dont want to heat things up too much in a relationship with a Scorpio, but you do want to keep it interesting enough to keep them excited. Assert yourself at times but not overly so. Scorpios are not necessarily aggressive so they like to win people over by diplomatic means more often. If you are too resistant to them too often, it will cause an argumentative relationship.
On a positive side Scorpios are usually generous partners and good loyal companions. They may even be slow to temper. But this sign of the sun person will get madly temperamental if pushed too long. It will not be a pretty sight when a Scorpio finally does get angry. They may seethe beneath their skin for a long time.
Some, but not many, Scorpios are of the forgiving type. This means if you mess up your relationship with them they most likely will hold a grudge for along time, if not forever. After a breakup if you were to talk to them again they usually will bring up all the wrong things you did that ended the relationship. You will feel like the entire breakup was your fault. Scorpios usually find it hard to forget and forgive.
One frustrating Scorpio tendency that you may encounter is this. They may be stomping around angry and you may have no clue what is wrong. When you ask what the problem is they may respond, “Can’t you figure it out?” This is just them assuming you know what has been on their mind.
If you have broken up with a Scorpio but manage to win him or her back you should keep in mind their personality. A Scorpio will assume you should be able to read their thoughts in every situation. Keep that in mind, and all the things in this article, when dealing with them if you want the relationship to work.
The only way to make things easier in this relationship situation is to let your Scorpio partner know that they need to communicate better when something is on their mind. Let them know you are not a mind reader. On your part you will have to be a very good listener and observer. You’ll need the ability to second-guess potential problems. If your Scorpio is not willing to work with you in your relationship it will be hard to get it to work out in the long run.