Month: March 2018
Dating a mama’s boy is not a laughing matter and many women love their husbands enough not to leave them. They want to help their men to recover and push on with life. In some cases some guys are the ones with a problem. Their moms have no issues and behave just like any other mother. The cause for such behavior in most instances is when a mother creates unhealthy dependency between the son and her when the child is growing up. The problem sets in when after adulthood the guy still remains hooked up to the mum. The mum lets all the strong attachments loose while the son feels he cannot face the world alone. He has got to have his mother on his side all the time. If you are a woman dating a mama’s boy you have to get psychological help because he is emotionally so dependent on the mother because he will never let his mother go or worse still he might try to turn you into his mother.
In another case, the mum might be the one who is not ready to cut the cord. As the woman in his son’s life you always suffer the consequences. The mother feels like you are competing for his son’s love. When you notice this as a woman dating a mama’s boy, you should not start being hard on him, you are a woman remember. You can use sweet words to get what you want. Gently coax your husband or boyfriend to be kind but set respectful boundaries with his mother. Let it not appear like you are trying to separate him from his mother. He has to be willing to pass the message. If you are used to visiting her every Sunday, you can suggest that you reduce that to once a month.
As a woman dating a mama’s boy you usually think of confronting his mother but is it a wise decision? It is not advisable at all because this is likely to cause a wedge in your relationship. This will force the guy to feel like he is being forced to choose between you and the mother. You are the stranger in the mix and so you can guess who will be thrown out. However if you are in a secure old relationship, you can decide its time for a little chat. Invite her for lunch and air out your concerns and remember to remain casual. “I sometimes feel like you do not let your son to be who he wants to be”. This is an example of an opening line you can use in your chat. Continue to explain that you want to be included in their relationship because you are a part of it.
It is possible to rehabilitate mama’s boy. A woman dating a mama’s boy who have got help has confessed to having a renewed uncontrolled relationship. This happens when the man in the unhealthy relationship acknowledges that he needs help. If your guy is young, you can encourage him to take baby steps. As he grows old he will need less energy and time to reconstruct his relationship with his mum. As a woman who is rehabilitating a mama’s boy, do it with a lot of empathy and a great sense of humor.
Long distance relationships are not immune to the conflicts that occasionally rare up in all forms of human interactions. The first time that a conflict occurs between a couple in a long distance relationship, they are likely to get alarmed wondering whether the conflict could be a signal that their relationship is headed for the rocks. After all, long distance love relationships are delicate, or arent they?
Well, the occurrence of a conflict in a relationship in which the partners are separated by distance doesnt necessarily signal the beginning of the end for that relationship. How well your long distance relationship survives the conflicts that come its way depends to a very great extend on how you handle the conflicts and attempt to resolve them.
There are three keys to successful conflict resolution in long distance relations (as in all relationships indeed), namely communication, communication and communication.
Communication has variously been described as the bridge that bridges the chasm that is human misunderstanding. Now a common thread that runs in all conflicts that affect human interactions is a feeling that one is not being understood, or that ones point of view is being looked down upon. And petty as these feelings sound on paper, they can actually be very painful when it is you who is experiencing them. But whatever the cause of conflict in a long distance relationship, and whatever the emotional feelings underlying it, you (either as the party who has been wronged or as the allegedly at-fault party) will have to communicate properly with other party to the long distance relationship, if your conflict is to have an amicable resolution.
Communication as used in conflict resolution basically means making an effort to see things from the other partys point of view, even if you dont accept with that point of view. Once you can communicate to the other party that you are seeing things from their point of view (or at least making an attempt to), then you would be in a position to put your own point of view across to them with a greater chance of success. And once you can see things from the other partys point of view, and the other party can see things from your point of view, you have a better chance of finding a midpoint or a compromise position between your points of view on whatever issue happens to be the source of your conflict and thereby resolve the conflict amicably.